As a mother, one of the most comforting and equally heartbreaking things you can ever hear is “it’s a phase”. When watching a baby grow you come to learn that most things they do are a phase whether they’re good or bad.
For example, sleep regressions. As new parents, you will always wonder if your baby is in a sleep regression when they’re having trouble sleeping but it’s not until it actually happens that you realize you have no doubt they are going through a sleep regression (we learned this lesson at eight months). It was a terrible, terrible few weeks that ended in us having to re-sleep train Baby T. And like everything else exhausting and not so pleasant she has gone through, it was also a phase.
Now, on the other side of that, there are things that your child will do that melt your heart and give you all the feels. There’s the cutest high pitch noise you’ve ever heard when they’re 7 months old, falling asleep in your arms without you even having to do anything at 3 months old, or being swaddled up like a baby burrito as a newborn. The sad thing about this is that you never know, with each of these things, which time is the last time you will experience it. It’s not until a couple of months later that you think “that hasn’t happened in a while” and then it never happens again. I’ll give you a second to dry your eyes from that realization.
It’s a fact of life that your child will change and grow for the next 20+ years, probably until they’re having their own children; the number of phases they will go through are an infinite amount. The thing you come to realize through all of them, good and bad, is that the more that you sit back and live in the moment of these phases the more you will learn from and love each and every single one. So, instead of wishing for an old phase to come back or a new one to come sooner, take a mental snapshot of where you are right now because one day they’ll be older and won’t need you to help them through the bad phases anymore or to wrap them up like a burrito and cuddle them to sleep.