I remember being a teenager (or younger) and seeing people who were my age now (around thirty) and thinking they were so cool and must have their lives all together. I couldn’t wait to be that age. Now that I am that age, it makes me laugh because I definitely am not ‘so cool’ and don’t have my life all together. I think the people who have it all together are the happy older couples you see casually walking down the street enjoying their retirement. That kind of work free, empty-nester, get to spoil the grandkids then give them back and go on nice long trips with no responsibilities life is the kind of life I think we’re all working towards. .
With that being said, there are a few things I have start doing recently that have made me feel extra adult-y, if that’s even a word. A lot of them have to do with sleep which is something I feel like a lot of adults struggle with. I went through a stretch of time where I was waking up four or five times a night and not even from Baby T! I thought maybe this was my life now, just never sleeping but somehow still getting up in the morning and functioning like a normal person, which is actually what most moms do every single day. But I started doing a few things different, I’m not sure if one of them fixed the problem or a combination of all three but my sleep has improved so much!
The first thing I did was invest in a new pillow. I consider myself a fairly frugal person, I like to look for good deals when I’m shopping but there are certain things I feel like are a good thing to spend money on and I have officially added a pillow to that list. I would always buy a cheap $20 pillow and not think too much about it, a pillow is just a pillow after all. But I started waking up every morning with a really bad neck ache, you know, like an adult. I finally decided to invest in a good pillow from Amazon that had good support for side and back sleepers. I am not even lying when I tell you this, the very next morning my morning neck ache was gone. Even still, this pillow is amazing. I will link it for you here incase you’re interested, I am not sponsored by the pillow company although if they want to send me more free pillows for recommending them I wouldn’t complain.
Another thing I purchased that I did actually look for a good deal on was a pair of silk sleeping masks. I just bought them from Amazon, I think they were about $10 for a pair, but I just wanted to try them out to see if they would work. Since I’ve had them I’ve used them every single night. I didn’t realize how bright our bedroom still was during the night and early morning. There’s a little blue light on the tv when it’s turned off, the green light from the baby monitor (that turns red when she’s crying, so red means bad) and we only had blinds on our windows so even the earliest morning light was coming in. Having the sleeping mask obviously blocks this all out and I think it forces me to keep my eyes closed so I’m not just looking around the room when I’m trying to go back to sleep. We have also, since then, put up some curtains in our room which has helped my husband to sleep better as well.
The last sleep related thing I’ve done is start using an oil diffuser every night. I’m not a huge believer in everything everyone says about essential oils but I do think certain ones can help in certain situations. I put two drops of lavender oil and three drops of eucalyptus and it does help me to wind down for the night. If the room is filled with those smells it’s like I know it’s time for bed now. I got my diffuser and oils both for free from my mom because she bought some new ones and was kind enough to share her old one and I’ve been using them pretty much every night since then.
My last adult-y thing I started doing is probably something I should have started a long time ago. I have started to make sure that I moisturize my face, legs and arms a lot more than I used to. A few years ago I started breaking out with a really bad angry red rash on my eyelids and neck. I went to the dermatologist and doctor and we could never find out exactly what it was so I kind of experimented with a few things to figure it out. I though maybe it was the moisturizer I was using on my face so I switched that out and I had also read that it could be cause from extreme dry skin. So not only did I buy a new face moisturizer, I also bought a nighttime one with different ingredients and I religiously use them both everyday. I’m happy to tell you that my face has not broken out since I started doing that and usually the dry winter was when it would happen the worst, and I’ve still been in the clear. I also found my legs would be so dry but I was usually too lazy or rushed to worry about putting moisturizer on them. The only time I would think of it was before bed but if you’ve ever put the wrong kind of moisturizer on your legs and then climbed into bed you know sometimes it just feels weird. I bought an inexpensive bottle of good moisturizer that was quick drying that I just throw on my arms and legs after I shower so I don’t even have to think about it for the rest of the day, and my skin has thanked me for it.
In conclusion, I may not have it all together like thirteen year old me thought, but I think I’m starting to get the hang of the adulting thing especially since I’m quite proud of these new discoveries in my life. Like I said with the changes I made to my sleep routines, I can’t say whether it was one specific thing that really made the difference or a combination of all three. Either way, I still obsess over my new pillow. I think when I start raving about my new vacuum to all my friends I’ll really hit full adult status.