Becoming a Mom Changes You

Becoming a mom changes you. 

Sure, your body changes sometimes beyond recognition. It feels like it’s no longer yours but belongs to your kids for comfort and transportation. 

And sure, you have new fears and anxieties that you never even knew existed. You constantly worry about the safety of little pieces of yourself running around and also worry if you’re ever doing enough for them. 

But you also change in the best way. 

You become stronger and braver by sticking up for what’s best for your kids. 

You find patience you never knew you had to give them a chance to learn on their own. 

You have a new kind of love for something that you never imagined could be so strong and bring you so much joy. 

You’ll never be the same again, but deep down you know you’re more than you ever thought you’d become. 

I wrote this recently thinking about how for the first year after becoming a mother I just felt like so much in my life had changed and at times I only had negative feelings about it. But once I settled in to this new identity as a mom I realized that it’s a part of life to grow and to change. We are never the same person we were 10-15 years ago, we’re constantly changing and learning. 

When you become a mom you change and learn so quickly and take on this caregiver role that a lot of us have never had to have before. The most responsibility I had before having kids was a dog and after having kids these little lives become your responsibility. It can be very overwhelming, but when you really think about the qualities you’re developing as a parent they’re all great qualities to have. 

I am not typically considered a patient person, but not that long ago I turned to my husband and said “I don’t know where this patience with our daughter comes from” (she’s two so if you know you know). His response was, “It didn’t come from anywhere, you’re just a good mom”. 

As moms we’re so quick to focus on our own negative traits that we’ve developed as parents, but for the negative traits there are also a ton of positive traits (most likely more). If you take a minute to think of these changes and new traits as a positive thing you might realize you’re doing a lot better than you thought. You may be becoming a person that is so much more than you ever believed you’d be. 

So embrace it and embrace yourself. You can still bring back some of the old you, while understanding that the new you is amazing in her own right. 

Our Baby Registry (for Baby #2)

What’s On Our Registry for Baby #2? The short answer – not a lot. 

Since we’re having another girl, it seems like we already have a lot of what we need from our first baby, especially when it comes to clothes. At the same time, though, there are a few things that we realized we would actually make good use of this time around and also a couple of things that needed replacing. 

For both of my baby registries I used myregistry.com. It’s a great website where you can link multiple registries in one place and add items from websites that don’t have baby registry lists. I opened registries on amazon.ca, babiesrus.ca and buybuybaby.ca and linked them all together. 

Let’s get started on what I picked! I’ll attach links to everything we chose.  None of these items are ads and this post is not sponsored (but as usual it would be nice if it was).

When we were decorating the nursery the first time around, we went with a lot of grey neutrals thinking if we had a boy as a second baby, it wouldn’t need to all be redone. This time I registered for some really girly crib bedding and change pad covers to really make the room feel more girly. 

One of the things we had to replace for baby #2 are our baby swing/seat. Our baby swing was passed down to us secondhand for our first baby.  She loved it so much we ran it into the ground and it was broken by the end of our time with it. The baby bouncer seat I had used upstairs was lent to me by my boss and I used it all the time.  However her niece recently had a baby so it was passed over to her. When choosing our new swing, I was inspired by my sister-in-law who is very good at researching and finding the best of the best. We chose a swing that also converts to a bouncer/rocker seat so we will definitely get lots of use out of it this time around. 

The second thing we had to replace unfortunately was our stroller. The stroller we got for baby #1 was great and it came with the whole travel system.  However shortsighted me did not ask myself whether it could be used as a double stroller. Which it cannot. So even though there is nothing wrong with the stroller, we did register (and already receive) our new double stroller. On the bright side, the new stroller can be fitted to hold our existing car seat.  So at least we did not need to replace the whole travel system. 

On my first registry I did not register for a breast pump. I didn’t think I really needed one and someone gave me a fully sanitized one that I only used a handful of times. I mainly used my haaka pump (which I will also link here because they’re great). I found the pump I got very uncomfortable to use.  I struggled a lot with clogged ducts and I feel like the pump may have contributed to this. To be fair, I also didn’t have instructions on how to use it properly and never thought to actually look them up. This time around I thought about registering for a really good breast pump but I really didn’t pump enough the first time to justify it. Instead I researched single manual pumps and found a really well rated one that a lot of moms said worked better than their electric pump. I also registered for some breastfeeding shirts because you can never have enough of those even when you’re on baby #2. 

We also used white noise with baby #1 almost from day one. I had an app on my phone that I would play it on but I wanted to be able to have access to my phone without white noise blowing in my face. To solve this problem I registered for a white noise machine. I’ve never had one before but I’m looking forward to see if it works just as well. 

Our baby monitor is still going strong and is capable of linking up to four cameras.  But for some reason the company we got it from stopped selling the extra cameras separately. So I’ve registered for another whole package with the camera and monitor.  That way if our monitor breaks, we have an extra and we also have an extra charging cable. 

Finally, the last few items include a larger diaper bag to carry supplies for two kids, more burp cloths (because like breastfeeding shirts, you can never have enough burp cloths), a bath kneeler (a cushion you can kneel on for bath time – I didn’t even know this was a thing), and an extra car seat protector. 

I know it seems like a lot of things, but when I think back to our registry for baby #1 it’s really not a lot. I wanted to make sure we only had things on there that we really needed.   I would rather have what we really need bought for us than stuff we only want. Hopefully this helps if you too are preparing for baby #2 and need a little help putting a registry together! 

Links

Bedding: https://www.babiesrus.ca/en/Dream-Crib-Sheet—Watercolor-Flower/A46DBA13.html

https://www.babiesrus.ca/en/Bassinet-Sheet—Watercolour-Flower/F41E998F.html

https://www.babiesrus.ca/en/Change-Pad-Cover—Watercolour-Flower/74F19A6D.html

Baby Swing/Seat: https://www.babiesrus.ca/en/DreamComfort-InLighten-Cradling-Swing-and-Rocker—Pemberton/E42E2B82.html

First Stroller: https://www.babiesrus.ca/en/Chicco-Bravo-Trio-System-with-KeyFit-30-Infant-Car-Seat—Poetic/46C550C2.html?gclid=EAIaIQobChMI–W2yIm59AIVx21vBB3GlAaPEAAYAiAAEgKhjvD_BwE

Double Stroller and Carseat Attachment: https://www.babyjogger.com/city-select.html

https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B019W2SNT6?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=IZQIXJKKILJKV&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link&th=1

Haaka Pump: https://www.amazon.ca/NatureBond-Silicone-Breastfeeding-Air-Tight-Hardcover/dp/B01LZ2ZVCY/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?keywords=haakaa+pump&qid=1638034737&sr=8-1-spons&psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUFBV0o3VExITkhJN1gmZW5jcnlwdGVkSWQ9QTAzODQyMTcxVzNSMjRRQldYWjNEJmVuY3J5cHRlZEFkSWQ9QTA5MzUxOTYxM1lYSFc5VjBZVEJYJndpZGdldE5hbWU9c3BfYXRmJmFjdGlvbj1jbGlja1JlZGlyZWN0JmRvTm90TG9nQ2xpY2s9dHJ1ZQ==

Manual Pump: https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B01ELGYX06?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=I1J4AYCYKIQZJJ&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link

White Noise Machine: https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B087QFT4SX?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=I3GCUMS6I4Q5HF&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link&th=1

Baby Monitor: https://www.babiesrus.ca/en/Summer-Infant-Panorama-5-Remote-Panoramic-View-Video-Monitor/760D741E.html#registryNumber=61993171&registryOwner=EVIE%20TAVARES

Large Diaper Bag: https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B07S28MZ4F?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=I2AVJA7G4HVNA6&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link

Burp Cloth Set: https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B07HKHRVGY?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=I2DNODAQX62KR6&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link

Breastfeeding Shirts: https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B084P9588N?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=I3R349EWOZRX51&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link

Bath Kneeler: https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B08LR3P9R4?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=I1U4ATSVS6RQ26&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link

Car Seat Protector: https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B07WVNL42F?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=I2XP42HVQTB9TB&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link