The One Where I Get Pregnant Again

Well, it’s official! We are having Baby Number Two! If you’ve been reading for a while you know I had a lot of apprehension about having another baby (see my blog post When Your First Labour Leaves You Unsure of a Second), but I honestly knew that we definitely wanted a second baby and I had a feeling my apprehensions wouldn’t get any better the longer we waited. So with that said, even though I’m a little nervous, we’re very excited to be adding another little one to our family. 

By the time I post this I will be a few months along since I didn’t want to announce to the internet something we haven’t announce to all of our friends yet but that’s okay, I’ll catch you up. Today (May 25th) I am five weeks and one day so still a bit early. My due date is around January 24th. I definitely knew very early that I was pregnant again. We were obviously trying so I was looking for early signs and it’s hard to describe but even within the first week I knew; the same thing happened with Baby T. I took the pregnancy test as early as I could and got a positive right away. 

So far I have already popped quite a bit, I’m actually thankful we’re in a pandemic and aren’t really seeing people in person because it would be a tough secret to hide. Not going to lie I thought I might be pregnant with twins because I had to undo the top button of my jeans before I could even take a pregnancy test. We’ve already shared the news with our families and a couple of friends and the rest we will wait another month or two before we do the official announcement. 

My favourite pregnancy apps that I used the first time around have been re-added on my phone including Ovia Pregnancy (the best articles and tips) and Pregnancy + (the best size comparison, and visuals of progress in the baby’s growth). According to these apps, Baby T # 2 is about the size of a smartie and has a little tail.  

As far as symptoms, I’ve just been exhausted and have to pee a lot more (including once during the night that I try to ignore but we all know how that goes). I feel like I’m more tired with this pregnancy than I was with Baby T but that could also be because instead of resting at the end of a work day or taking it easy on a day off I’m still taking care of a one and half-year old. Not that I’m complaining, because she’s honestly a good distraction from the tiredness and occasional nausea I’m already developing. She also motivates me to keep moving which is obviously good for you when you’re pregnant. 

I feel like it’s a boy but I also felt the same way with Baby T, I ended up changing my mind about a week before we did find out she was a girl so we will see if I stick with it this time. We would honestly be happy with either a boy or a girl this time around. I would love to be able to use all of Baby T’s clothes again and I would also love to have one of each in the family. We won’t find out until September so we’ve got some time to sit on it for now. 

Some other exciting news is that my sister-in-law is also expecting her first baby and is due in October! Once again I get to have a pregnancy buddy and our little babies will get to be only three months apart. I’m very happy to share my ‘wisdom’ and already-too-small maternity clothes and bras with her and she’s very happy to share her own new wisdom that I didn’t have before.

We’re going to be making some changes around the house including moving Baby T into a bigger bedroom to open up the nursery for the new baby and creating a kids playroom in our basement. Right now the play area is behind our couch which works good for now, but there are some toys in the bigger upstairs bedroom that will need to be moved downstairs to make way for Baby T’s big girl room. I’ll try and share some of the before and after of these changes as they happen and be sure to share some tips and tricks for Baby #2 including things we’ll be  replacing or changing and old things we’re happy to use again. 

I’m so excited to be able to document this pregnancy and the changes that come with going from a family of three (plus dog) to a family of four (still plus dog).

Lockdown Number Two

We live in Ontario, Canada where they have decided to do a second province wide lockdown, in the northern regions it will last 14 days and the rest (where we live) for 28 days. If you’ve been with me since the beginning you know that the first lockdown took a toll on me mentally, and while I’m sure this one will have it’s fair share of rough days, I feel better prepared for it. My husband and I are both also essential workers which means we still have babysitters for Baby T, and still get out of the house on a regular basis. 

So, how do we get through a second lockdown when we know from experience how much it sucks? I already did a post about things you can do with your spouse, here’s some ideas I have to keep my own sanity as well as Baby T’s.

  1. Get outside (weather depending). We just had about 10 cm of snow where we live which doesn’t sound like a lot but it actually is a good amount. Thankfully, being the smart Canadian parents that we are, we invested in a good snow suit and pair of winter boots for Baby T. We got to go outside even if it was for a short amount of time and enjoy the fresh air and the fresh snow.
  2. Try to limit eating out and drinking during the week. I am all about supporting local restaurants during this time but I’m also about supporting my stomach. It always feels the best when we have healthy home cooked meals every night, and maybe one night of ordering in per week. For alcohol, I know it’s easy when you have to be home every night to crack open another beer or another bottle of wine and relax even if it’s only a couple of drinks, but for me it can make me feel more down about myself and what’s going on around me. A few on the weekends is a nice treat, but maybe try a nice herbal tea or good old water during the week.
  3. Exercise. Gyms are closed again of course, just as we were getting into a good routine of going back. Thankfully after the first lockdown we invested in some equipment for our garage like a squat rack, a bench and dumbbells. This time around we’ve had to invest in a propane heater so our hands don’t freeze to the bars. If you don’t have gym equipment there are so many other options; with a little motivation you can have a really good sweat session right at home. There are some really good workout apps and programs that involve no equipment like Kayla Itsines SWEAT and Alive by Whitney Simmons (by the way I am in no way affiliated with these companies or sponsored by them), both of these you have to pay for but if you can afford it sometimes the fact that it’s costing you money is the best motivation of all because you want to get your moneys-worth. There are also free options all over Youtube.
  4. Find a good book to read. Do you ever have those times where your eyes are straining from watching too much TV or scrolling on your phone too much and you just need a break from it? This is where all those books on your shelf come in handy. It’s easier on your eyes and if it’s a good enough book it’ll take you to a different place for a little while. If you’re into writing do that too! You can google ‘writing prompts’ for some ideas to get you started on Fiction and Non-Fiction writing.
  5. Find activities for your family to do together. I’m very guilty of just letting Baby T go with her toys and not doing anything that’s very engaging or fun for either of us but recently my husband and I have been trying to set up activities for us to do as a family. Thank goodness for Pinterest! There are so many ideas of activities for specific ages and a lot of them don’t even involve you having to buy materials, you just have to get a little creative with what’s already in your house.
  6. Keep the music going. Music often has a way of affecting your mood. First thing in the morning I turn on our Spotify to a happy, upbeat playlist to start the day. I’m not a morning person at all but it helps me to wake up and sets the tone for the rest of the day.
  7. Try not to watch the news. It’s good to keep up with basic information (like the fact that there is a lockdown), but watching the news all day everyday is never a good idea. It’s not a bad thing to forget about what’s going on in the world from time to time.

There you have it! Seven easy things to get through the next 28 days, if the lockdown goes longer than that then I guess we will have to think of some new things. I know readers on here are from all over the world, so wherever you are and whether you’re in a lockdown as well or not, I hope you all stay safe and make good choices! 

Comment below if you have your own ideas of lockdown activities for families! 

Blog Challenge: 10 Random Facts About Me

To start off our Blog Challenge I will be giving 10 Random Facts about me.

1. I have been married for *almost* ten years (I got married young)

2. My idea of a perfect date is snuggled up by a fire watching movies with dinner ordered in and a glass of wine (hint hint Dan)

3. My favourite international place I’ve been is Ireland; specifically the Aran Islands

4. My favourite place I’ve been in Canada is my favourite cottage in Calabogie, ON (it’s a place I didn’t make that name up)

5. I do not like the beach unless it’s attached to an all inclusive

6. I have been working in the banking industry since I left high school (over ten years)

7. I graduated one semester early because I went to summer school and had a credit for taking registered piano lessons and exams for 8 years and because I hated high school

8. My favourite meal is a full British turkey dinner

9. My dream job was to be a teacher

10. I have music playing in my house all day everyday; silence creeps me out

What are some random facts about you?

Blog Challenge

Okay we’re going to try something here. I have found 30 writing prompts for new bloggers on Pinterest so I’m going to give it a try to get the creative juices flowing. In all transparency I think the idea is for me to write and post everyday but I think we all know that’s not going to happen. Feel free to follow along and write your own, you can even put some of your own ideas in the comments section!

Here is a list of all of the writing prompts, I have also linked the original writer below incase you want to check her page out as well.

  1. 10 random facts about you 
  2. Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
  3. What is your typical daily routine? 
  4. Your opinion on a recent news story
  5. A motivational quote and what it means to you
  6. A letter to your teenage self (that one could be a doozy)
  7. Express gratitude to three people
  8. What are your goals for this year? 
  9. A book you love 
  10. 5 Apps you wouldn’t be without 
  11. The meaning behind your blog name 
  12. Advice for people starting out in blogging/journaling 
  13. How to _______
  14. 5 Blogs you read regularly and why 
  15. Your top 5 productivity tips 
  16. If you could have dinner with anyone, dead or alive, who would it be? 
  17. Who is your role model and why? 
  18. Best advice you received from your parents
  19. A wishlist 
  20. A favourite song lyric and what it means to you 
  21. 5 Books you recommend 
  22. If you won the lottery, what would you do? 
  23. What have you learned today? 
  24. An accomplishment you are proud of
  25. Create and share a vision board
  26. Somewhere you’d like to visit and why 
  27. What is one thing you want to learn? 
  28. Useful resources for people in your industry
  29. Describe yourself in three words and explain 
  30. Your current priorities in life

I’ll still share some of my own content in between these, but I thought this would be a fun way to close out 2020 and ring in 2021 blogging style! Once this is posted I’ll be starting a fresh page for Blog Challenge #1! 

Blog Challenge Ideas courtesy of http://www.kerryjohnson.co.uk/challenge-new-bloggers/

Nap Time Diaries: Fun Lockdown Activities with your Spouse

When Ontario went into lockdown in the spring a lot of couples found themselves spending more time with their significant others than they had ever before. For me, Baby T had just started going to bed at 8 which left a couple of hours for my husband and me to spend together every night for about six weeks. We’re very social people so this was a bit of a change for us to be home alone together every night. We found some fun new ways to spend our time together and it honestly brought us a little closer together. So today I’m going to share some of those and don’t worry this Blog Post is not rated R.

1. Games – The options for two-player games are endless whether it’s card games, board games or two-player video games. Our personal favourites are Monopoly Deal (a 15-minute version of monopoly that you can buy on amazon), cribbage and Mario Smash Brothers. The key to making the fun last with these is having mini-tournaments. Each night we did best out of three games with Monopoly deal and we kept track of who won the entire time we were in lockdown. Unfortunately, my husband won but I’ll get him next time.

2. Movie Night – We had a lot of movie nights. We’re not big movie people, but when you have that much time on your hands you become movie people. We watched some old movies that we both like and finally got to watch some newer ones that we had been meaning to watch.

3. Wine/Beer/Whiskey Tasting – This actually didn’t happen for us but I think it will definitely be on our list of things to try. Buy a few different mini bottles of whiskey, cans of beer, or bottles of wine and try them out.

4. Cook a Fancy Meal or Order One In – We can’t make a lot of noise in our kitchen when Baby T is sleeping because her room is right beside the kitchen so we didn’t do a lot of cooking after she went to bed, but we did postpone our dinner some nights and order in a fancy meal just because. Our favourite was a giant three-course pasta from a local Italian place, I’m kind of getting hungry just thinking about it.

5. Evening Stroll – This wasn’t something we could do after Baby T went to bed but we did go for lots of walks together as a family once the weather started warming up, and if you don’t have a baby evening walks are nice too. You could maybe even take a little drink with you in a mug or a flask whatever floats your boat.

6. Start a new TV Series – There are hundreds of shows to choose from and some providers were nice enough to release even more when everyone was on lockdown. We definitely went through quite a few including The Office for the 100th time.

7. Zoom Party with Your Friends – Even though it was nice to spent time as a couple, we missed our friends a lot. Before COVID and even before babies we had the tradition of going to Boston Pizza on Thursday evenings for a few drinks and appetizers so we kept up the tradition, at the same time on a Thursday night we would gather around the zoom table with a couple of beers and some snacks. We even got creative on playing some games together virtually.

The future still seems a little uncertain and in my opinion, another lockdown may be looming for us over the winter, so stock up now on games, movies, tv shows, whiskey, beer, wine and make sure your iPads or laptops are fully charged for zoom. Being stuck in a house with only those in your household doesn’t have to be the most boring thing in the world and doesn’t have to involve doing the same thing every night for weeks on end. In the grand scheme of things, this time will seem like such a short period in your life and one that everyone had to take a step back and simplify things in their lives. So take a step back, sit in your home with your loved ones and beat their asses at Monopoly Deal.

Travel Series: Destin, Florida

This month’s travel series feature is a place that I now hold dear in my heart for two reasons. The first being, it was our first trip that we took with Baby T, she was six months old and we flew there (with connecting flights and yes, we survived). The second is that this was our last trip before COVID-19 became a household name and took over everyone’s lives which sounds dramatic but we all know it’s the truth.

We took this trip at the very end of February 2020 with our family, our close friends, who have a baby boy the same age as Baby T, and their families. How did we fit 14 people in one place? Rent a beach mansion, which is surprisingly affordable when there are that many people going and it’s offseason. I will post a photo of the house below so you can see just how big it was. It was right across from Destin Beach which has gorgeous powder white sand (also pictured below) and while it wasn’t quite the warm beach vacation we thought it was going to be, the chill kept the crowds away and most days if we went for a walk on the beach we were the only ones around. It was mostly the breeze that was making it cooler so we spent most of our time in the pool at the house which was more sheltered from the wind.

When we weren’t by the pool we would go shopping, play games or explore the harbour fronts. It was a very relaxed group to go with which is always a good thing. As for restaurants, we only ate out once or twice but our absolute favourite was Whale’s Tails. It was a five-minute walk down the street and right on the beach but we only discovered it on the last day of our trip so we went for lunch and dinner. The tacos were amazing and even though we completely filled the indoor seating for our dinner, we had the best time (and more tacos).

We all wholeheartedly agreed that we wanted to go back next year to the same place, but by the time we got home COVID-19 was quickly spreading and within a couple of weeks all travel was stopped and we were on our way to lockdown. Even though we headed home to tough times the memories we made there stuck with us and we know that one day, once it’s safe, we will go back and do it all again.

Beach Mansion
White Sand Beaches

Nap Time Diaries: Everything Is A Phase

As a mother, one of the most comforting and equally heartbreaking things you can ever hear is “it’s a phase”. When watching a baby grow you come to learn that most things they do are a phase whether they’re good or bad.

For example, sleep regressions. As new parents, you will always wonder if your baby is in a sleep regression when they’re having trouble sleeping but it’s not until it actually happens that you realize you have no doubt they are going through a sleep regression (we learned this lesson at eight months). It was a terrible, terrible few weeks that ended in us having to re-sleep train Baby T. And like everything else exhausting and not so pleasant she has gone through, it was also a phase.

Now, on the other side of that, there are things that your child will do that melt your heart and give you all the feels. There’s the cutest high pitch noise you’ve ever heard when they’re 7 months old, falling asleep in your arms without you even having to do anything at 3 months old, or being swaddled up like a baby burrito as a newborn. The sad thing about this is that you never know, with each of these things, which time is the last time you will experience it. It’s not until a couple of months later that you think “that hasn’t happened in a while” and then it never happens again. I’ll give you a second to dry your eyes from that realization.

It’s a fact of life that your child will change and grow for the next 20+ years, probably until they’re having their own children; the number of phases they will go through are an infinite amount. The thing you come to realize through all of them, good and bad, is that the more that you sit back and live in the moment of these phases the more you will learn from and love each and every single one. So, instead of wishing for an old phase to come back or a new one to come sooner, take a mental snapshot of where you are right now because one day they’ll be older and won’t need you to help them through the bad phases anymore or to wrap them up like a burrito and cuddle them to sleep.

Nap Time Diaries: Going Back to Work Doesn’t Mean You’re Not Going to Be a Mother Anymore

I don’t know why this is so hard for me to wrap my head around. My work world and being a mother have never mixed and it means all new routines and ways of doing things. Yesterday was my first day back to work after my maternity leave and even though I was excited to get back it surprised me how difficult it was in the moment to leave Baby T behind, then at the end of the day, I had to remind myself that I’m picking her up and the second part of my day was about to start.

For the last few weeks before going back every time I would think about it, it was hard to imagine going back to work and still coming home to Baby T and being a mom, not in the way that I wasn’t looking forward to coming home to her but more that it was hard to imagine these two worlds together. I had to keep reminding myself that when I come home from work she will always be there, I’ll still get to see her and spend time with her every day, I’m still the first person she sees in the morning and the last person she sees at night.

So how did the first day go? Well, I work at a small branch of a credit union as a Junior Advisor, so there was a lot of catching up to do on new programs, getting passwords and my profile all set up again and saying hi to the familiar faces and a couple of new ones. I hadn’t used a computer or my brain that much in a long time. I had all these plans to maybe write a blog during my lunch or read a book but none of that happened, it was a lot to adjust to and take in on the first day so all I did was go and buy a bottle of wine for the evening.

I don’t regret going back, it wasn’t a bad first day, but anyone who’s done this knows the first day back after a little over a year is more overwhelming than anything. The good thing is this past year has made me stronger and more confident and assertive in who I am so I know that just like I had to take it one day at a time as a new mom, I have to take it one day at a time with this new routine. I get to have the best of both worlds working part-time; a few days outside of the house seeing workmates and customers (safely since there is still a pandemic going on) and a few days home with my favourite one year old. We also have a new aspect to the blog as a working mom so there’s a lot to look forward to!

Travel Series: NYC

In October of 2018 I went to New York City with my mom for a long weekend and to this day it’s one of my favourite trips (sorry to my husband but it’s really not his kind of trip). Let me start with what made me want to go to New York so badly. Three words: Frozen.. On.. Broadway. The ultimate dream of any Frozen fan was to see it on Broadway in New York with Caissie Levy and Patti Murin as Elsa and Anna. If you’ve been to good Broadway shows you know they can take something good on screen and make it next level, like with The Lion King.

So I was dying to go to New York to see it but like I said it’s not really a trip my husband was interested in taking especially considering how expensive it can be for two people. That was when my mom stepped in and said she would go with me, thereby splitting the cost in half. My mom and I are big planners so we had everything planned out for each day way ahead of time and this was our first girls weekend together since I got married so we were pretty excited.

We flew in from Toronto and got an Uber to our hotel, the Hilton in Times Square which was the perfect location for everything we planned. The first night we had made reservations at this little Italian Place within walking distance so we walked right through bustling Times Square on our way there. It was already nighttime but the lights from the screens made it seem like it was daytime. It was packed with people and we were trying to quickly get to the restaurant while also taking it all in for the first time.

The restaurant we had chosen was one of the top-rated (affordable) Italian restaurants online called Patsy’s Italian Restaraunt and it has been owned and operated by the Scognamillo Family since 1944 (information thanks to a quick google search). We were so pleasantly surprised to be in this little cozy spot for our first night in New York. I ordered the Chicken Parmigiana and oh my goodness I think I still dream about that meal, I have never had authentic Italian chicken parmigiana and it changed my life. It sounds dramatic but I dare you to try it and have a different reaction. After our dinner, we took our dessert to go and took a more leisurely walk through Times Square on our way back to the hotel.

For our second day, we had booked a tour at the Metropolitan Museum. It was booked for later in the morning so we made plans to walk to the Museum through Central Park and picked a few spots along the way that we wanted to stop and see like the Bethesda Terrace and Fountain and basically all of the other places you’ve seen on Gossip Girl. Once we got to the MET we started our tour which was three hours long but also seriously fascinating. I don’t know about you but when I’m walking around a museum looking at artifacts I would read the plaque about it and think “oh cool” then move on, but with the tour, the guide went into so much detail and pointed out how different things in different sections went together to create a story from history.

That evening was our biggest plan of the weekend; seeing Frozen on Broadway. I was way too excited to eat a big meal so we ate light and went to the theatre to get settled into our seats in plenty of time before the show started. I had seen a couple of YouTube videos from American Breakfast TV shows showing ‘Let It Go’ and ‘For The First Time in Forever’ but seeing it all together live was incredible. The actors were so talented and by the time it was over I could have sat down again and watched it all the way through a second time.

The rest of the weekend we spent exploring as much of the city as we could; we walked down to see the Statue of Liberty, Ground Zero, the Financial District, SoHo, Brooklyn Bridge and Rockefeller Centre. We walked 15km every day for three days and even though I had bought new memory foam shoes special for this trip, my feet still felt like they were going to fall off. For two mornings in a row we went to the same New York Bagel place (Liberty Bagels) and split a bagel breakfast sandwich that was right up there with the Chicken Parmigiana which is the reason we went the second time. By the last night, we were too tired to go out for dinner so we ordered room service and a bottle of wine to share while we watched a movie on TV (The Greatest Showman if I recall correctly). It was sad when it was over, we always talked about when we were going to go back maybe the following year which obviously didn’t happen since I was 8 months pregnant in October 2019, but that was okay because it was the perfect trip and to this day one of my favourite weekends spent with my mom.

Bethesda Terrace
Times Square
Liberty Bagels
Frozen On Broadway