Our Baby Registry (for Baby #2)

What’s On Our Registry for Baby #2? The short answer – not a lot. 

Since we’re having another girl, it seems like we already have a lot of what we need from our first baby, especially when it comes to clothes. At the same time, though, there are a few things that we realized we would actually make good use of this time around and also a couple of things that needed replacing. 

For both of my baby registries I used myregistry.com. It’s a great website where you can link multiple registries in one place and add items from websites that don’t have baby registry lists. I opened registries on amazon.ca, babiesrus.ca and buybuybaby.ca and linked them all together. 

Let’s get started on what I picked! I’ll attach links to everything we chose.  None of these items are ads and this post is not sponsored (but as usual it would be nice if it was).

When we were decorating the nursery the first time around, we went with a lot of grey neutrals thinking if we had a boy as a second baby, it wouldn’t need to all be redone. This time I registered for some really girly crib bedding and change pad covers to really make the room feel more girly. 

One of the things we had to replace for baby #2 are our baby swing/seat. Our baby swing was passed down to us secondhand for our first baby.  She loved it so much we ran it into the ground and it was broken by the end of our time with it. The baby bouncer seat I had used upstairs was lent to me by my boss and I used it all the time.  However her niece recently had a baby so it was passed over to her. When choosing our new swing, I was inspired by my sister-in-law who is very good at researching and finding the best of the best. We chose a swing that also converts to a bouncer/rocker seat so we will definitely get lots of use out of it this time around. 

The second thing we had to replace unfortunately was our stroller. The stroller we got for baby #1 was great and it came with the whole travel system.  However shortsighted me did not ask myself whether it could be used as a double stroller. Which it cannot. So even though there is nothing wrong with the stroller, we did register (and already receive) our new double stroller. On the bright side, the new stroller can be fitted to hold our existing car seat.  So at least we did not need to replace the whole travel system. 

On my first registry I did not register for a breast pump. I didn’t think I really needed one and someone gave me a fully sanitized one that I only used a handful of times. I mainly used my haaka pump (which I will also link here because they’re great). I found the pump I got very uncomfortable to use.  I struggled a lot with clogged ducts and I feel like the pump may have contributed to this. To be fair, I also didn’t have instructions on how to use it properly and never thought to actually look them up. This time around I thought about registering for a really good breast pump but I really didn’t pump enough the first time to justify it. Instead I researched single manual pumps and found a really well rated one that a lot of moms said worked better than their electric pump. I also registered for some breastfeeding shirts because you can never have enough of those even when you’re on baby #2. 

We also used white noise with baby #1 almost from day one. I had an app on my phone that I would play it on but I wanted to be able to have access to my phone without white noise blowing in my face. To solve this problem I registered for a white noise machine. I’ve never had one before but I’m looking forward to see if it works just as well. 

Our baby monitor is still going strong and is capable of linking up to four cameras.  But for some reason the company we got it from stopped selling the extra cameras separately. So I’ve registered for another whole package with the camera and monitor.  That way if our monitor breaks, we have an extra and we also have an extra charging cable. 

Finally, the last few items include a larger diaper bag to carry supplies for two kids, more burp cloths (because like breastfeeding shirts, you can never have enough burp cloths), a bath kneeler (a cushion you can kneel on for bath time – I didn’t even know this was a thing), and an extra car seat protector. 

I know it seems like a lot of things, but when I think back to our registry for baby #1 it’s really not a lot. I wanted to make sure we only had things on there that we really needed.   I would rather have what we really need bought for us than stuff we only want. Hopefully this helps if you too are preparing for baby #2 and need a little help putting a registry together! 

Links

Bedding: https://www.babiesrus.ca/en/Dream-Crib-Sheet—Watercolor-Flower/A46DBA13.html

https://www.babiesrus.ca/en/Bassinet-Sheet—Watercolour-Flower/F41E998F.html

https://www.babiesrus.ca/en/Change-Pad-Cover—Watercolour-Flower/74F19A6D.html

Baby Swing/Seat: https://www.babiesrus.ca/en/DreamComfort-InLighten-Cradling-Swing-and-Rocker—Pemberton/E42E2B82.html

First Stroller: https://www.babiesrus.ca/en/Chicco-Bravo-Trio-System-with-KeyFit-30-Infant-Car-Seat—Poetic/46C550C2.html?gclid=EAIaIQobChMI–W2yIm59AIVx21vBB3GlAaPEAAYAiAAEgKhjvD_BwE

Double Stroller and Carseat Attachment: https://www.babyjogger.com/city-select.html

https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B019W2SNT6?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=IZQIXJKKILJKV&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link&th=1

Haaka Pump: https://www.amazon.ca/NatureBond-Silicone-Breastfeeding-Air-Tight-Hardcover/dp/B01LZ2ZVCY/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?keywords=haakaa+pump&qid=1638034737&sr=8-1-spons&psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUFBV0o3VExITkhJN1gmZW5jcnlwdGVkSWQ9QTAzODQyMTcxVzNSMjRRQldYWjNEJmVuY3J5cHRlZEFkSWQ9QTA5MzUxOTYxM1lYSFc5VjBZVEJYJndpZGdldE5hbWU9c3BfYXRmJmFjdGlvbj1jbGlja1JlZGlyZWN0JmRvTm90TG9nQ2xpY2s9dHJ1ZQ==

Manual Pump: https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B01ELGYX06?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=I1J4AYCYKIQZJJ&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link

White Noise Machine: https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B087QFT4SX?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=I3GCUMS6I4Q5HF&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link&th=1

Baby Monitor: https://www.babiesrus.ca/en/Summer-Infant-Panorama-5-Remote-Panoramic-View-Video-Monitor/760D741E.html#registryNumber=61993171&registryOwner=EVIE%20TAVARES

Large Diaper Bag: https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B07S28MZ4F?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=I2AVJA7G4HVNA6&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link

Burp Cloth Set: https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B07HKHRVGY?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=I2DNODAQX62KR6&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link

Breastfeeding Shirts: https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B084P9588N?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=I3R349EWOZRX51&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link

Bath Kneeler: https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B08LR3P9R4?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=I1U4ATSVS6RQ26&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link

Car Seat Protector: https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B07WVNL42F?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=I2XP42HVQTB9TB&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link

It’s A Girl!

Well, it’s official! We’re going to be a family with two little girls, three if you count the dog. Baby #2 is a little girl and we are so excited. Surprised, but excited. Let me explain. 

Through this whole pregnancy I have been so sure I was having a boy. I felt so different from the last pregnancy and I had multiple dreams I was having a boy. How do you not believe it if you’re dreaming it? I had such a strong gut feeling I was literally already thinking of it as a boy. We’ve had a boy name picked out since we first started talking about kids, and I thought I was finally going to get to use it (before anyone else did).  

We decided to do a low-key gender reveal just for the three of us. On the day of my 20 week ultrasound, I sat in the dark room watching our baby on the screen. First of all, I was a bit sad because with this particular place and the current COVID-19 restrictions I was there by myself for the first time. It was emotional I’m not going to lie. Still, I sat there looking at the screen thinking to myself, “Yep, that definitely looks like a boy.” 

When it came time for her to look, she turned the screen off so I couldn’t see. Rightly so, because if I had seen anything that resembled a ‘you know what’ I would’ve written the answer down in the envelope myself. She turned the screen back on and continued to show me our baby. Then she said, and I quote, “There is the umbilical cord, once it falls off that’s where HIS belly button will be”. So obviously I thought she’d slipped up and that was it, it was a boy. 

I took the secret unopened envelope to the nearest Party City Store. I picked out a gender reveal box (which I can link here) and asked the clerk to please fill it with whatever colour was in the envelope, which I was sure would be blue. I said I would be back in half an hour but would call first so I wouldn’t walk in while they were doing it. Didn’t want to risk seeing those blue balloons before my husband. 

Nearby was a Home Sense so like any woman I went to browse around while I waited. I saw in the book section a Star Wars book. A little back story to this, I grew up with my brother watching Star Wars. I love and have always loved Star Wars and I just happen to be the only one within 100km of my home who feels that way. So I’m of course thinking if I have a boy I will get him all these Star Wars things and he will be my Star Wars baby (without telling my husband who can’t stand Star Wars). Here was this Star Wars book, and I thought, I’m so sure it’s a boy I’m just going to go ahead and buy this. I did buy it and hid it in my work bag so my husband wouldn’t see it and think I peeked in the envelope. 

Fast forward to around dinner time the same day. The box is in our house with the answer inside that we and our families have waited for. We take it outside and set up our cameras to document our reactions. After convincing Adds that the box is not scary, we countdown to the big reveal. Again, I was 1000% expecting to see blue, and what popped out? Well you can probably guess by now it was not blue. 

I don’t think shocked even covers how surprised I was. We were so happy but obviously there’s the realization that you feel like your body was tricking you this whole time. Not a cruel trick of course because two girls is just as good, but like a ‘ha ha I got you!’ trick. 

We both said after, we were happy we decided just to do it the three of us because we took the whole evening to process the surprise and let it sink in. Here’s the thing too, I’m only planning on having two kids. So this obviously means there will never be a boy in our little family, unless there’s a big oopsie in our future (if we do have an oopsie, and you’re my third child reading this in the future I do love you very much but yes you were an oopsie). It was very bittersweet. 

Once things settled though, we thought about all the fun it will be to have two girls, how much easier and less expensive it will be since we already have everything for a girl, and how much she is going to show us that this is exactly how our little family was meant to be. One day we’ll look back and laugh thinking that there was no way a boy could ever replace our beautiful second baby girl. 

Oh and I will teach them both to love Star Wars as much as I do. 

Travel Series: Myrtle Beach

My parents started going to Myrtle Beach when I was in high school. I went with them for two or three years and then after I got married I didn’t go with them for about five years. Once we could afford to take a couple of trips a year we decided to go with them every other year and in the time that I missed it felt like it hadn’t changed at all. It is still one of my favourite places to go back to over and over again. 

With that said, I’m a creature of habit, so for me going to the same places, eating at the same restaurants and sitting at the same spot on the beach year after year is a dream come true (I get it from my Dad). 

We always stay at the Anderson Ocean Club with my parents when we go, it’s right on the ocean and close to the best shopping and restaurants. There’s not a lot of nightlife but the beach is where we spend most of our days and the mixture of sun and fresh air usually makes me ready for bed at 9:00 pm anyway. 

It’s probably the most relaxing and unwinding vacation you can take. The people we go with, including my parents, are very laid back and easy going. Everyone makes their way to the beach on their own time schedule (the husbands golf most mornings and make their way down in the afternoons) and if everyone feels like eating at the same place they go together, if they don’t, they go separately and no one is worried. When I think of Myrtle Beach I think of sitting on a beach chair, music playing, staring out at the ocean and thinking of absolutely nothing at all. 

A big part of our trip is the restaurants, and to me, it’s some of the best food I’ve ever had. My husband and I have found a couple of low-key places that we love, like the burgers at River City Cafe and the giant margaritas and burritos at Banditos Cantina, both within walking distance of our hotel. We always visit Carrabbas, Gordon Biersch and Greg Norman’s (I know a couple of those are chain restaurants but they’re not ones that we have in Canada so to us they’re a Myrtle Beach specialty). One year, one of the couples that go every year took us to Margaritas Mexican Restaurant which looks like an 80’s diner from the outside but we were assured it was home to some really good authentic Mexican food. It was amazing Mexican food and amazing gold tequila and true to its name amazing margaritas. 

It might not seem like the most special or exciting place in the world, but everything seems to slow down when we’re there and isn’t a break like that something we all need sometimes? To me it’s good beaches, good food and drinks, amazing people and one of my favourite places. 

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How to Get Through a Sleep Regression

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I want to say wine, but sometimes that’s not always the answer. 

Sleep regressions sound like a really bad thing… and they can be. A baby that sleeps pretty much perfectly for months can suddenly decide they want to keep you up all hours of the night. Here’s a few ways to get through them and keep your sanity and also a couple of things to keep in mind while they’re happening. 

When Do They Happen? 

I had read that sleep regressions can happen at 6 months, 8 months, 12 months, the list kind of goes on. If you’re wondering if your baby might be in a sleep regression they’re probably not because when it’s actually happening you know 100% you’re in the middle one. Baby T had a sleep regression when she was 8 months old, she was going through a lot of developmental leaps at that time as well as teething and a growth spurt. She also had a cold and managed to fall and twist her ankle while playing; it was basically the perfect storm. She went from going to bed on her own and sleeping 12 hours a night, to refusing to go to sleep and waking up three or four times a night. We would have to put blankets next to her crib and sleep on the floor next to her just to get her to sleep.

Sleep Training 

Obviously she was going through a lot at the time so we did give in and coddle her to get her through it, but after three weeks of barely any sleep we needed to change some things. We went back to sticking to our bedtime routines, made sure she was nice and comfortable and made sure she was sleepy. We decided to try a gentle form of sleep training where we did pop ins to let her know she wasn’t alone and to coach her through it. The first night was awful, she cried and cried and it broke my heart but in the end she went to sleep on her own and slept through the night for the first time in weeks. It only took one more night of pop ins and she was back to being an amazing sleeper. 

You know your baby best and if sleep training isn’t for you or your baby that’s 100% your choice. With Baby T it worked great and we’re very happy we did it. It takes a lot of patience and even though the crying is so hard to hear we had to make sure we were the calm soothing ones in the situation. I always took a deep calming breath before going in for a pop in because if she could tell that I was freaking out it would make her worse. 

When it Happens Again

Now she’s reached 15 months and has more teething and has been having a rougher time sleeping again. We did coddle her again because we understand if she’s in pain from teething it would be hard to her to sleep through the night on her own, but we reached a certain point again where she cried out of habit instead of actually needing us so we started the process again and even though it really really sucks its better for our family in the end. Everyone is way happier when everyone is sleeping soundly. 

If you’re in the middle of a sleep regression or sleeping trouble hang in there, do what’s best for you and your baby and it will eventually get better (hopefully before they’re teenagers). 

The Mom Bod

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The Mom Bod is something I think all moms know and stress about. It doesn’t matter how fit you are before your pregnancy it’s still a struggle to get used to the changes in your body after giving birth, no matter what there are differences. 

I know some moms bounce back pretty quickly from breastfeeding, and I fully anticipated this happening to me as well but it didn’t. I know some people will probably hate me for saying this but I’m not someone who struggled with losing weight before, I inherited my dads Dutch metabolism. Since having Baby T it’s something I struggle with physically and mentally, accepting that I do need to watch what I eat and try and exercise even though being a mom is already demanding on its own. 

It feels like everyone pays attention to how you look after your a mom and how you’ve bounced back from your baby body and sometimes it doesn’t matter how much people tell you that you look great, unless you believe it yourself you never feel that way. Women do have so much pressure from social media and entertainment to look a certain way even after having babies and it can be difficult to love yourself even though you know what amazing things your body has done to grow and nurture a tiny human. 

I think there should always be a balance between wanting to take care of yourself and be healthy, not doing extreme diets or exercising to the point of burning yourself out and accepting your new body as it is and appreciating the things it’s accomplished. Your baby will never look at your body and think anything negative about it, they see their comfort and their home. 

A mom bod isn’t something you should be ashamed about, but do what feels best to you. If you feel like trying to better yourself and push yourself a little to make yourself feel better then do that! If you have accepted your mom bod for what it is that’s amazing! We don’t have to be pressured to feel either of those ways, just do you, boo. 

How’s It Going?

We are just over three weeks into our lockdown here in Ontario, it was supposed to be ending January 23rd but they gave lockdown a new name (Stay At Home Order) and from that point extended it until at least February 11th. How’s that going, you ask?

At the beginning of lockdown I had plans of how to get through it and stay positive but that’s not always easy to do. You don’t realize you’ve taken for granted so much in your life until it’s all considered illegal activity and after a while it does start to get to you no matter how hard you try. Through lockdown I’ve learned to take every day one at a time, even though almost every day seems exactly the same. If one day is worse than the others I try to wake up the next morning and start fresh, finding something to smile about first thing in the morning like breakfast with Baby T and sharing tea and coffee with my husband before we start our day. 

At work, I can tell that the lockdown is getting to everyone, employees and customers. I work in a very small branch and with new policies and procedures that include screening customers at the front door it’s obvious that there is a new tension in the environment. As someone who stays as far away from conflict as possible, I find some of my days are very uneasy trying to avoid bothering people.

I consider myself lucky to be able to go to work part time at this point because at least it gets me out of the house and interacting with a handful of people, stay at home moms have it the hardest right now I think with no play groups to go to and no stores to go walk your baby around in. Even the two days I’m by myself with Baby T, I struggle to find things in the house to entertain her and with no where to go except for maybe a walk if you feel like bundling up in 5, and under, degree weather.

It feels like it puts more pressure on me to be more creative with activities for her but that’s hard when you’re not really a crafty or creative person. Sometimes I can sense that she’s as bored sitting at home as I am. 

All in all, I know this is a pretty down and depressing blog but also probably one I’ve needed to write for a while. It’s hard to put into verbal words sometimes how I’m feeling but putting them out there in writing is always very therapeutic. If you’re feeling the same way and need to put it down in writing feel free to put it in the comments, no judgements here. Also, have a look at my previous blog of getting through a second lockdown for a refresher of ideas and motivation to be positive, I might do the same myself. I will leave it linked below.

Speaking of writing being therapeutic, since I switched to only posting once a week I haven’t been writing as often as I’d like to. I have lots of content prepared for the next few weeks and I am already writing into posts for the end of February, so I have decided I would like to try posting twice a week… Monday’s and Thursday’s at 5 pm. That’s a bit exciting isn’t it? You get to hear more from me, hopefully less depressing!

Thanks for reading and keep your chin up (telling myself the very same thing in the mirror). 

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