Travel Series: NYC

In October of 2018 I went to New York City with my mom for a long weekend and to this day it’s one of my favourite trips (sorry to my husband but it’s really not his kind of trip). Let me start with what made me want to go to New York so badly. Three words: Frozen.. On.. Broadway. The ultimate dream of any Frozen fan was to see it on Broadway in New York with Caissie Levy and Patti Murin as Elsa and Anna. If you’ve been to good Broadway shows you know they can take something good on screen and make it next level, like with The Lion King.

So I was dying to go to New York to see it but like I said it’s not really a trip my husband was interested in taking especially considering how expensive it can be for two people. That was when my mom stepped in and said she would go with me, thereby splitting the cost in half. My mom and I are big planners so we had everything planned out for each day way ahead of time and this was our first girls weekend together since I got married so we were pretty excited.

We flew in from Toronto and got an Uber to our hotel, the Hilton in Times Square which was the perfect location for everything we planned. The first night we had made reservations at this little Italian Place within walking distance so we walked right through bustling Times Square on our way there. It was already nighttime but the lights from the screens made it seem like it was daytime. It was packed with people and we were trying to quickly get to the restaurant while also taking it all in for the first time.

The restaurant we had chosen was one of the top-rated (affordable) Italian restaurants online called Patsy’s Italian Restaraunt and it has been owned and operated by the Scognamillo Family since 1944 (information thanks to a quick google search). We were so pleasantly surprised to be in this little cozy spot for our first night in New York. I ordered the Chicken Parmigiana and oh my goodness I think I still dream about that meal, I have never had authentic Italian chicken parmigiana and it changed my life. It sounds dramatic but I dare you to try it and have a different reaction. After our dinner, we took our dessert to go and took a more leisurely walk through Times Square on our way back to the hotel.

For our second day, we had booked a tour at the Metropolitan Museum. It was booked for later in the morning so we made plans to walk to the Museum through Central Park and picked a few spots along the way that we wanted to stop and see like the Bethesda Terrace and Fountain and basically all of the other places you’ve seen on Gossip Girl. Once we got to the MET we started our tour which was three hours long but also seriously fascinating. I don’t know about you but when I’m walking around a museum looking at artifacts I would read the plaque about it and think “oh cool” then move on, but with the tour, the guide went into so much detail and pointed out how different things in different sections went together to create a story from history.

That evening was our biggest plan of the weekend; seeing Frozen on Broadway. I was way too excited to eat a big meal so we ate light and went to the theatre to get settled into our seats in plenty of time before the show started. I had seen a couple of YouTube videos from American Breakfast TV shows showing ‘Let It Go’ and ‘For The First Time in Forever’ but seeing it all together live was incredible. The actors were so talented and by the time it was over I could have sat down again and watched it all the way through a second time.

The rest of the weekend we spent exploring as much of the city as we could; we walked down to see the Statue of Liberty, Ground Zero, the Financial District, SoHo, Brooklyn Bridge and Rockefeller Centre. We walked 15km every day for three days and even though I had bought new memory foam shoes special for this trip, my feet still felt like they were going to fall off. For two mornings in a row we went to the same New York Bagel place (Liberty Bagels) and split a bagel breakfast sandwich that was right up there with the Chicken Parmigiana which is the reason we went the second time. By the last night, we were too tired to go out for dinner so we ordered room service and a bottle of wine to share while we watched a movie on TV (The Greatest Showman if I recall correctly). It was sad when it was over, we always talked about when we were going to go back maybe the following year which obviously didn’t happen since I was 8 months pregnant in October 2019, but that was okay because it was the perfect trip and to this day one of my favourite weekends spent with my mom.

Bethesda Terrace
Times Square
Liberty Bagels
Frozen On Broadway

Nap Time Diaries: Wellness Menu

I know these are maybe the last words you’d like to hear but I’m going to say them; winter is on its way. For a lot of us, this winter is looking a little bit different because of the situation that shall not be named but we all know what I’m talking about. If you live in Canada, like me, there will be no warm, tropical or beach getaways this year which is normally something that helps boost our winter blues. So as a mom, who will be spending a lot of time indoors focusing on keeping a one year old occupied, it’s important to make sure that we’re taking time to recharge our batteries to avoid burning out for our little ones.

I got this idea from an Instagrammer that I follow who is also a mom of a one-year-old (@_brittanylupton, at least I think it was her if not she’ll just get a free plug from me). She suggested making for yourself a Wellness Menu so that when you feel like you need to take some time to rest and recharge yourself you can look at your Menu and pick something for you to do to take that time. It can include things like giving yourself a manicure, taking a candlelit bath, going for a run or watching a movie, but not things that are kind of like doing chores like organizing your linen closet.

So let’s give it a try, I’ll write my own Wellness Menu here and feel free to do the same for yourself!

My Wellness Menu

1. Make a cup of tea and read a book

2. Have a glass of wine in a candlelit bubble bath

3. Lift some weights

4. Take Baby T for a walk

5. Watch a movie with the fireplace on

6. Go to bed early

7. Visit a friend

8. Get a babysitter for the day and RELAX

We’re really not sure how this winter is going to go. It’s already a difficult season for some to get through and it could either be the same as it usually is, or maybe a little worse, but either way, make yourself a little list so when it starts getting you down and you need a little pick me up thinking of something nice to do is already done. Make an appointment to do something for you so you have the energy again to pour yourself into someone else.

Nap Time Diaries: When Your First Labour Leaves You Unsure of a Second

I sat on the examination table in the OBGYN’s office, naked from the waist down with my legs covered by a white sheet. I’d been here before, not this particular office, but being a woman and a mother I’ve been in this situation before. Having to strip down to have a doctor look at you is never something you get used to and even though I had given birth almost a year ago and had, I don’t even know how many people, looking down there I still fiddled my fingers nervously.

Nothing has really been the same since having my baby, physically or emotionally, but regardless I know the time for having baby number two is going to be approaching soon and since I’d had some complications after my labour I wanted to make sure everything is okay for when we decided to start trying again. The OBGYN came in and sat down, first she asked me questions about why I was there and about my pregnancy and labour. I explained to her what had happened after giving birth and that it had made me hesitant about doing it again. When she asked why I held back tears and just said it was all a bit traumatizing.

After taking a look she said everything was great and I had nothing to worry about, ‘on a scale of someone who shouldn’t have another baby to someone who could have ten more babies, I could have ten more babies’ were her exact words, but I think she knew it wasn’t the physical trauma that was the issue. What she said next was something I’ve needed to hear for a long time. She said, “I know it’s scary. You have this bad memory of what it was like, what the recovery was like, but it won’t be like that again. The chances of it happening the first time were so small, the chances of it happening a second time are even smaller. It doesn’t have to be traumatic again, it will go great and you will have a whole new way of remembering it.”

At this point, I had started crying (behind my face mask which actually made me less embarrassed about crying because at least she couldn’t see my whole face). She passed me a box of tissues and continued, “Some people like to drive the bus and be in complete control of everything, some people like to have someone else drive the bus for them. You seem like an accomplished woman who can take care of herself, but when the time comes you need to have people you can trust to take care of you and walk you through it. Pick a medical provider who you trust to hold your hand and reassure you through the whole thing because that’s what you need. You will be okay.”

Even after having my baby a year ago, the thought of having another and going through it all again has terrified me. Having people tell you it will be fine and that I didn’t need to worry didn’t really take that fear away. Sometimes it takes someone from the outside looking in to understand what you’ve been through and the emotional toll its taken on you to reassure you that even though you might be scared it’s not something you’ll ever go through alone and as long as you have people that you trust helping you through it, it will all be okay.

I’m not saying I’m ready right this minute to have a second baby after speaking with her, but just like with the first there may not ever be a perfect time to go for it. It’s nice to have your feelings and fears acknowledged and confirmed as legitimate by someone who is going to give it to you straight, and I don’t think she realizes that her words will stick with me now and through my next pregnancy, just not through another ten after that because that’s just not happening.

Nap Time Diaries: The End of a Long Weekend

It’s been a very busy few weekends for our little family and we finished it all off with a long weekend camping with our new trailer. Since it was a long weekend in October, in Canada, it was pretty chilly outside but this is always my favourite time of year. Plus, having a furnace in the trailer made it nice and easy to warm up.

We spent the weekend with friends and family having campfires and some drinks. Baby T did so good sleeping in the trailer and loved being outside all day. My husband and I both found it difficult coming home and realizing that the week was about to start yet again. For him, that meant another long week of working and for me, it meant another week of just Baby T and me most days. Sometimes that can feel a bit overwhelming especially since most of these days consist of the same routine over and over again, but in reality, Baby T is so happy and fun to watch right now that she always ends up making me smile most of the day anyway.

This was also my last long weekend and weekend away before I go back to work in November. The year has gone so fast and I thought I wouldn’t be ready to go back but I actually am. I’m not cut out to be a stay at home mom, I need some time for myself and I guess work will be that time. Maybe I’ll feel different once I’m back but right now I’m looking forward to it. I’m pretty sure Baby T’s Nanas are also looking forward to it.

So even though the end of this long weekend feels like the end of a number of things for us as a family, it is the start of a new season and new routines for us that I think will be exciting and fulfilling. October is my favourite month of the year and this year it’s no different.