Our Baby Registry (for Baby #2)

What’s On Our Registry for Baby #2? The short answer – not a lot. 

Since we’re having another girl, it seems like we already have a lot of what we need from our first baby, especially when it comes to clothes. At the same time, though, there are a few things that we realized we would actually make good use of this time around and also a couple of things that needed replacing. 

For both of my baby registries I used myregistry.com. It’s a great website where you can link multiple registries in one place and add items from websites that don’t have baby registry lists. I opened registries on amazon.ca, babiesrus.ca and buybuybaby.ca and linked them all together. 

Let’s get started on what I picked! I’ll attach links to everything we chose.  None of these items are ads and this post is not sponsored (but as usual it would be nice if it was).

When we were decorating the nursery the first time around, we went with a lot of grey neutrals thinking if we had a boy as a second baby, it wouldn’t need to all be redone. This time I registered for some really girly crib bedding and change pad covers to really make the room feel more girly. 

One of the things we had to replace for baby #2 are our baby swing/seat. Our baby swing was passed down to us secondhand for our first baby.  She loved it so much we ran it into the ground and it was broken by the end of our time with it. The baby bouncer seat I had used upstairs was lent to me by my boss and I used it all the time.  However her niece recently had a baby so it was passed over to her. When choosing our new swing, I was inspired by my sister-in-law who is very good at researching and finding the best of the best. We chose a swing that also converts to a bouncer/rocker seat so we will definitely get lots of use out of it this time around. 

The second thing we had to replace unfortunately was our stroller. The stroller we got for baby #1 was great and it came with the whole travel system.  However shortsighted me did not ask myself whether it could be used as a double stroller. Which it cannot. So even though there is nothing wrong with the stroller, we did register (and already receive) our new double stroller. On the bright side, the new stroller can be fitted to hold our existing car seat.  So at least we did not need to replace the whole travel system. 

On my first registry I did not register for a breast pump. I didn’t think I really needed one and someone gave me a fully sanitized one that I only used a handful of times. I mainly used my haaka pump (which I will also link here because they’re great). I found the pump I got very uncomfortable to use.  I struggled a lot with clogged ducts and I feel like the pump may have contributed to this. To be fair, I also didn’t have instructions on how to use it properly and never thought to actually look them up. This time around I thought about registering for a really good breast pump but I really didn’t pump enough the first time to justify it. Instead I researched single manual pumps and found a really well rated one that a lot of moms said worked better than their electric pump. I also registered for some breastfeeding shirts because you can never have enough of those even when you’re on baby #2. 

We also used white noise with baby #1 almost from day one. I had an app on my phone that I would play it on but I wanted to be able to have access to my phone without white noise blowing in my face. To solve this problem I registered for a white noise machine. I’ve never had one before but I’m looking forward to see if it works just as well. 

Our baby monitor is still going strong and is capable of linking up to four cameras.  But for some reason the company we got it from stopped selling the extra cameras separately. So I’ve registered for another whole package with the camera and monitor.  That way if our monitor breaks, we have an extra and we also have an extra charging cable. 

Finally, the last few items include a larger diaper bag to carry supplies for two kids, more burp cloths (because like breastfeeding shirts, you can never have enough burp cloths), a bath kneeler (a cushion you can kneel on for bath time – I didn’t even know this was a thing), and an extra car seat protector. 

I know it seems like a lot of things, but when I think back to our registry for baby #1 it’s really not a lot. I wanted to make sure we only had things on there that we really needed.   I would rather have what we really need bought for us than stuff we only want. Hopefully this helps if you too are preparing for baby #2 and need a little help putting a registry together! 

Links

Bedding: https://www.babiesrus.ca/en/Dream-Crib-Sheet—Watercolor-Flower/A46DBA13.html

https://www.babiesrus.ca/en/Bassinet-Sheet—Watercolour-Flower/F41E998F.html

https://www.babiesrus.ca/en/Change-Pad-Cover—Watercolour-Flower/74F19A6D.html

Baby Swing/Seat: https://www.babiesrus.ca/en/DreamComfort-InLighten-Cradling-Swing-and-Rocker—Pemberton/E42E2B82.html

First Stroller: https://www.babiesrus.ca/en/Chicco-Bravo-Trio-System-with-KeyFit-30-Infant-Car-Seat—Poetic/46C550C2.html?gclid=EAIaIQobChMI–W2yIm59AIVx21vBB3GlAaPEAAYAiAAEgKhjvD_BwE

Double Stroller and Carseat Attachment: https://www.babyjogger.com/city-select.html

https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B019W2SNT6?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=IZQIXJKKILJKV&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link&th=1

Haaka Pump: https://www.amazon.ca/NatureBond-Silicone-Breastfeeding-Air-Tight-Hardcover/dp/B01LZ2ZVCY/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?keywords=haakaa+pump&qid=1638034737&sr=8-1-spons&psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUFBV0o3VExITkhJN1gmZW5jcnlwdGVkSWQ9QTAzODQyMTcxVzNSMjRRQldYWjNEJmVuY3J5cHRlZEFkSWQ9QTA5MzUxOTYxM1lYSFc5VjBZVEJYJndpZGdldE5hbWU9c3BfYXRmJmFjdGlvbj1jbGlja1JlZGlyZWN0JmRvTm90TG9nQ2xpY2s9dHJ1ZQ==

Manual Pump: https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B01ELGYX06?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=I1J4AYCYKIQZJJ&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link

White Noise Machine: https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B087QFT4SX?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=I3GCUMS6I4Q5HF&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link&th=1

Baby Monitor: https://www.babiesrus.ca/en/Summer-Infant-Panorama-5-Remote-Panoramic-View-Video-Monitor/760D741E.html#registryNumber=61993171&registryOwner=EVIE%20TAVARES

Large Diaper Bag: https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B07S28MZ4F?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=I2AVJA7G4HVNA6&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link

Burp Cloth Set: https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B07HKHRVGY?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=I2DNODAQX62KR6&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link

Breastfeeding Shirts: https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B084P9588N?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=I3R349EWOZRX51&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link

Bath Kneeler: https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B08LR3P9R4?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=I1U4ATSVS6RQ26&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link

Car Seat Protector: https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B07WVNL42F?colid=33Q0OF0QFBMEK&coliid=I2XP42HVQTB9TB&ref=br_ADD_TO_CART_title_link

Pregnancy in a Pandemic

There are a number of things that make pregnancy in a pandemic a bit different and unique.  And until you’ve experienced it versus a normal pregnancy you don’t realize just how much it affects you. 

For our first pregnancy my husband came to every single doctor/midwife appointment and ultrasound. He was so excited and didn’t want to miss a thing. Fast forward to our pandemic pregnancy and there are different rules for different places. Doctor and midwife appointments are a solo event which didn’t bother me a whole lot because I knew if I needed him I could call my husband on speakerphone for the appointment. Thankfully we have had a normal, healthy pregnancy and none of these solo conversations have involved bad news.  But my heart truly goes out to the pregnant moms who have to face difficult and scary conversations on their own. 

For our first ultrasound he was allowed to come with me. However once I was transferred to my midwives for care we were sent to a different ultrasound office. They had told me when booking the appointment that I had to go alone and I had come to terms with that. Then on the morning of the appointment my husband wanted to phone their office to see if the rules had changed. Me, with my foggy baby brain, gave him the phone number to the wrong ultrasound office who had said he was welcome to come. 

He ended up changing around his whole work schedule only for us to realize that we were waiting at two different locations. I felt terrible enough for the mistake but it only got worse when I confirmed with the receptionist that he was not able to come in with me and I also wouldn’t be allowed to FaceTime him during the ultrasound. 

This was the first time in the whole pregnancy where it really hit me – mostly because I had gotten both of our hopes up. I ended up crying quietly (under my mask) during the entire ultrasound while watching our baby on the screen. Obviously this was not a reaction I expected to have but it felt so much more real that things were different this time around. 

Back to my first pregnancy and first labour in the hospital we had our families sitting in the waiting room while Ads made her appearance into the world. We also had my mom in the room with us for support through the whole thing. Nowadays there’s no one in the waiting rooms to come in and meet the baby in her first moments. And depending on the number of COVID-19 cases in the area, there may only be one support person allowed in the delivery room. 

I do know that at the height of the pandemic there were some mothers who were forced to go through the whole thing alone which I can’t even imagine. 

Some hospitals may or may not be allowing anyone to come visit the baby once you’re in recovery. It seems to depend on the area and the cases. Assuming and hoping that everything goes smoothly, my midwives are planning to have me head home the same day so we will have everyone meet her once we get home. 

All in all, there are plenty of things different about a second pregnancy already. Throw a bunch of added rules and restrictions from the pandemic on top of it and it’s like whole other experience. Thankfully it seems as though we’re nearing the end of a lot of the restrictions in Ontario. Fortunately it doesn’t seem as though there will be another lock down this winter season so there shouldn’t be any other huge letdowns. 

To all the other moms who have been pregnant, had babies, or even those who have been going to fertility clinics during this difficult time – hang in there. You’re doing great!  And remember, we’re all in this together. 

It’s A Girl!

Well, it’s official! We’re going to be a family with two little girls, three if you count the dog. Baby #2 is a little girl and we are so excited. Surprised, but excited. Let me explain. 

Through this whole pregnancy I have been so sure I was having a boy. I felt so different from the last pregnancy and I had multiple dreams I was having a boy. How do you not believe it if you’re dreaming it? I had such a strong gut feeling I was literally already thinking of it as a boy. We’ve had a boy name picked out since we first started talking about kids, and I thought I was finally going to get to use it (before anyone else did).  

We decided to do a low-key gender reveal just for the three of us. On the day of my 20 week ultrasound, I sat in the dark room watching our baby on the screen. First of all, I was a bit sad because with this particular place and the current COVID-19 restrictions I was there by myself for the first time. It was emotional I’m not going to lie. Still, I sat there looking at the screen thinking to myself, “Yep, that definitely looks like a boy.” 

When it came time for her to look, she turned the screen off so I couldn’t see. Rightly so, because if I had seen anything that resembled a ‘you know what’ I would’ve written the answer down in the envelope myself. She turned the screen back on and continued to show me our baby. Then she said, and I quote, “There is the umbilical cord, once it falls off that’s where HIS belly button will be”. So obviously I thought she’d slipped up and that was it, it was a boy. 

I took the secret unopened envelope to the nearest Party City Store. I picked out a gender reveal box (which I can link here) and asked the clerk to please fill it with whatever colour was in the envelope, which I was sure would be blue. I said I would be back in half an hour but would call first so I wouldn’t walk in while they were doing it. Didn’t want to risk seeing those blue balloons before my husband. 

Nearby was a Home Sense so like any woman I went to browse around while I waited. I saw in the book section a Star Wars book. A little back story to this, I grew up with my brother watching Star Wars. I love and have always loved Star Wars and I just happen to be the only one within 100km of my home who feels that way. So I’m of course thinking if I have a boy I will get him all these Star Wars things and he will be my Star Wars baby (without telling my husband who can’t stand Star Wars). Here was this Star Wars book, and I thought, I’m so sure it’s a boy I’m just going to go ahead and buy this. I did buy it and hid it in my work bag so my husband wouldn’t see it and think I peeked in the envelope. 

Fast forward to around dinner time the same day. The box is in our house with the answer inside that we and our families have waited for. We take it outside and set up our cameras to document our reactions. After convincing Adds that the box is not scary, we countdown to the big reveal. Again, I was 1000% expecting to see blue, and what popped out? Well you can probably guess by now it was not blue. 

I don’t think shocked even covers how surprised I was. We were so happy but obviously there’s the realization that you feel like your body was tricking you this whole time. Not a cruel trick of course because two girls is just as good, but like a ‘ha ha I got you!’ trick. 

We both said after, we were happy we decided just to do it the three of us because we took the whole evening to process the surprise and let it sink in. Here’s the thing too, I’m only planning on having two kids. So this obviously means there will never be a boy in our little family, unless there’s a big oopsie in our future (if we do have an oopsie, and you’re my third child reading this in the future I do love you very much but yes you were an oopsie). It was very bittersweet. 

Once things settled though, we thought about all the fun it will be to have two girls, how much easier and less expensive it will be since we already have everything for a girl, and how much she is going to show us that this is exactly how our little family was meant to be. One day we’ll look back and laugh thinking that there was no way a boy could ever replace our beautiful second baby girl. 

Oh and I will teach them both to love Star Wars as much as I do. 

Raising A Toddler

There are few things in life that give you equal parts joy and frustration; one of these things is raising a toddler. Baby T is 21 months and has settled into her spunky little personality. Independence is her new favourite activity and most of the time it’s pretty adorable but sometimes it’s a whole new test on patience you didn’t even know you had. 

Temper tantrums are not for the faint of heart and every child is different so dealing with them is different for everybody. I like to think we handle Baby T’s tantrums well but then sometimes they go on and on I start to doubt my abilities (and sanity). We just make sure she’s in a safe space where she can let it out and we stay close by without giving the tantrum the attention she’s looking for. 

We try to let her know that being upset it normal and okay, we all do it we just express it a little differently. Once she’s calmed down we’ll get her some water and give her a little cuddle. Kids are still humans with feelings they just don’t have the vocabulary to express them yet, so they express being upset and frustrated the only way they know how. 

Sleep regressions can also hit hard at this point. It feels like Baby T hasn’t had a normal sleep (by normal I mean going to sleep on her own and sleeping through the night) in over a month. Unfortunately camping once a month through the summer has definitely not helped as she doesn’t go to sleep on her own in the trailer. By the time we build up to sleep training it’s time to go on another trip. 

Sleep training a toddler who can say “no” when you tell her to lie down and go to sleep is one of the most frustrating defeating things I’ve ever done. I can’t even say it’s been successful or that it works because honestly it hasn’t yet. It’s been a lot of sleepless nights, sitting in her room or rocking her until she falls asleep and being so tired we just bring her to bed with us because she falls asleep faster which means we get to too. 

I feel like I had pretty good patience before, even better when she was a newborn, but the patience you have to develop and force yourself to use with a toddler is way more than I even though possible. 

Like I said though, equal parts joy and frustration. The joy we get from Baby T learning a new skill, learning new words and phrases or even just seeing her thriving and smiling far overshadows the frustrations. So even on the days where it feels like I’m on my last thread of sanity she does something that makes me laugh or smile and it’s like hitting the reset button. Every day is different and gets even better than the last, and that’s what raising a toddler is like.